Can you hear me now?

Here's an outline from a recent message in a series my pastor did.
"Can You Hear Me Now? Communication for Edification"
Eph. 4:29

Principles for building up your spouse:

Make it safe to communicate. (Eph. 4:29)
Seek to understand, not to be understood. (v. 2;Phil. 2:2-4)
Don't assume you know- ask.
Listen- don’t interrupt. (Prov. 18:13; James 1:19)
Don't nag. (Prov. 10:19)
Don't jump to conclusions. (James1:19; Prov. 21:23)
Disagree? Yes. Disrespect? No. (Eph. 4:32)
Deal in potential, not the past.
Don't force your spouse to be your carbon copy.
Pray for one another. (I Sam. 12:23)

Better communication depends upon change.